The three commitments

I’m terrible at goal setting but still aspire to get better at it. This recent reflection was more about connecting to who I am. During the process, three things came to mind. So here are my commitments to myself (and, in a way, to you):

Trust. I will never betray the trust of a reader, friend, or confidante even when it furthers my own ambitions — especially then. I will always seek to be honest in all things I do and say. When things are obscure, I will seek to make them as clear as possible, so no assumptions are made.
Integrity. I will be who I say I am, and when I am not, I will admit it. I will live by my values as best I understand them. I will not lead a divided life and will not betray my conscience, even when doing so could lead to more success. For me, this means that I am a creative who runs a business, not a CEO who happens to write. And that distinction is important to me.
Generosity. I will commit myself to serving the needs of others, which means first taking care of myself both spiritually, emotionally, and physically. I will give my best to my family, friends, community, and readers (in that order). I recognize that my life is not about me, but that my gifts are meant to be given away.

Last month I wrote about the 3 things you need to give yourself the best shot at accomplishing your goals:

Clarity – A focused sense of what you’re trying to accomplish.
Consistency – The grind of stacking small wins on top of small wins, day after day.
Community – Leaning on friends when you don’t feel like hustling.
Those are great c words, but there’s one that is straight poison and social media unfortunately serves it up by the gallon.

I’m talking about comparison.

I don’t know about you, but every January I need to remind myself that comparison leads to arrogance or shame, but never happiness.